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Whether $20 lent for a concert ticket or $500 to help cover an emergency home repair, lending money to friends or family can sometimes unfortunately spawn uncomfortable follow-up conversations about repayment. Here’s how to tactfully ask to get paid back while preserving important relationships.
Time It Thoughtfully
Popping repayment reminders immediately after lending money may seem efficient but can accidentally convey mistrust versus assuming positive intent in delays. Wait until a suitable period has passed before politely checking in.
Keep It Casual
Avoid sounding accusatory when seeking repayments. Frame questions conversationally about whether challenges came up rather than demanding explanations. Give them the benefit sharing details privately if needed.
Offer Flexible Terms
If lack of funds is an issue temporarily, reassure them and then discuss what installment amount and cadence seems feasible given their situation, even if smaller increments or extended timelines.
Put It In Writing
To prevent misaligned assumptions, follow up in-person repayment discussions in writing summarizing agreed specifics like amounts and dates expected. This neutral documentation also holds both parties gently accountable.
Emphasize Your Relationship
Close repayment convos by underscoring how much you value your overall friendship beyond this one awkward money matter which you know they’ll make right as soon as circumstances allow.
With open communication emphasizing mutual understanding and accountability, getting repaid by friends need not jeopardize caring connections rooted in trust and good intent.
Time It Thoughtfully
Popping repayment reminders immediately after lending money may seem efficient but can accidentally convey mistrust versus assuming positive intent in delays. Wait until a suitable period has passed before politely checking in.
Keep It Casual
Avoid sounding accusatory when seeking repayments. Frame questions conversationally about whether challenges came up rather than demanding explanations. Give them the benefit sharing details privately if needed.
Offer Flexible Terms
If lack of funds is an issue temporarily, reassure them and then discuss what installment amount and cadence seems feasible given their situation, even if smaller increments or extended timelines.
Put It In Writing
To prevent misaligned assumptions, follow up in-person repayment discussions in writing summarizing agreed specifics like amounts and dates expected. This neutral documentation also holds both parties gently accountable.
Emphasize Your Relationship
Close repayment convos by underscoring how much you value your overall friendship beyond this one awkward money matter which you know they’ll make right as soon as circumstances allow.
With open communication emphasizing mutual understanding and accountability, getting repaid by friends need not jeopardize caring connections rooted in trust and good intent.
